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Yes, it goes against the “pickup wisdom”, but when you see the way Decker demonstrates this in segment 18, you’ll know how to have her feeling deeply seen and celebrated as a human being - a rare gift! How to genuinely compliment a woman without coming off as a supplicating lapdog.(see examples of this in segment 9 and segment 24) She’ll trust you more when she knows you’re going to check her on it, and that she can’t bullshit you. The “Calling Her Out” Practice – Actually demonstrates that you’re LISTENING closely, not just to her words, but to her emotional truth (90% of communication is nonverbal, right).This is where the real magic arises…that most guys blindly trample over (segment 1). How and when to allow for “full silences”(even WELCOMING potential awkwardness and discomfort).Note: This also works at small gatherings of friends for you to know each other on a deeper level. Ever wanted to take a conversation from being a boring information exchange to being more emotional and meaningful? Try the “Heart Melter Question” in segment 23.Why “storytelling” can actually RUIN a connection – and what the ingredients are for a story that actually DEEPENS connection.To me, it’s not your responsibility to keep a conversation from turning awkward once the other’s party’s started down that part. If you’re at the receiving end of such an insensitive and ill-judged question, there’s really very few things you can do to keep the conversation from going downhill. If you avoid the question, she’d think you have something to hide. If you answer, “I’m a doctor,” she might think, “Wow, someone’s boasting here.” Or she might think, “Does this mean I’m not good enough for this person’s company? What if he asks me what I’m doing?” Or, “Uh-oh, it sounds like he’s got a more interesting job than me… what do I say next?” If you answer the question directly, you can’t predict her reaction. Let’s reverse the roles, and suppose a date asks you what you do for a living. Or did you ask, “Well… what, exactly?” and get a curt, “I don’t think I know you that well?”Īsking strangers and new acquaintances about their jobs, or salaries–or anything to which people attach social status–is bad because it’s often a direct assault on their egos. You’ve probably never heard of it.” Did the conversation stop dead, right there? Have you ever asked someone about their job, only to have them give a generic answer, like “Executive”? Have you ever asked been about where you study, only to have to answer, “Oh, just some neighbourhood school.
I’m saying this because it’s an important boundary to respect when meeting new people. I’m not saying this to bash local culture. I don’t get asked (nor do I ask) questions like, “What company do you work at?” The closest I get to that is, “What do you do?” When I travel overseas, or when I entertain foreign visitors, we talk about hobbies, friends, passions, current affairs, our respective awful climates.
People in Singapore have a bad, bad habit of asking new acquaintances about their jobs, salaries, education, etc. Whenever I greet a new stranger at the lobby of my apartment, they seldom ask me, “Did you just move in?” Or even a more basic, “Do you live here?” What they ask is, “Are you a tenant?” and, “How much do you pay for rental/the house?”
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